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Ranking the Men


Someone asked me today, how do women in ATTICA rank men that they meet..and below is my list ala David Letter Men Style...


10 : All The Men that Don't Belong to the Below

9 : All the Tourists that don't belong to number 7 or 8

8. Asian American/European Tourists

7. White Tourists

6. Average Singaporean men

5. Asian american/european expats who are NOT rich

4. Rich Singaporean men

3. Asian American/ european expats who ARE rich

2. White expats who are NOT rich

1. White expat who ARE RICH

tell me I am wrong......

stupid women are happy women


Was having one of my usual "men cannot be trusted" talks with cookie (not my doggie) and we derived at the conclusion that "stupid women are happy women"..ok...stupid maybe too strong a word...naive, simple if you prefer, but for the purpose of this entry, we shall stick to stupid.

Whenever a guy makes a statement, the non-stupid gal can never take it at face value. A " I really do like you and wanna consider a relationship with you" will be read as.."I like you and would love to get into your pants"..then we'll start to repeat that statement to our non-stupid friends, dissect it to try to break the code and find the true meaning to the sentence..But to a stupid woman..she'll probably think..."awwww,..he's in love with you and want to love you for the rest of his life.."..

Whenever a guy buys flowers...the non-stupid gal will start wondering what he's done that is so wrong that he has to send flowers to cover up his bad deeds...and start a conference with the non-stupid friends to share their own.."the bastard did this - experience"...the stupid woman will just go..."awwww...i have the sweetest boyfriend in the world..."

Whenever a guy asks us out for drink, the non stupid gal will believe that he has a hidden agenda..Is he interested in me? Is he trying to get me drunk to get me in bed...is he...is he...the stupid gal will just be floating in midair thinking about what to wear..

The non-stupids think too much, trying to protect ourselves as we are afraid of getting hurt...so that when it really turns out the way we draft it to be..we can tell our friends..and mostly tell ourselves..SEE! i told you so...we try to scheme and plan, try to be careful of this and that and honestly it takes a lot of effort and energy. And actually very often, this causes relationships to fail because we become a different person when we put up a brick wall around us.

I wish I was a little more naive, a little simpler, a little more stupid.
At least this way I am able to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, to quit worrying and to be able to stop asking myself all the what ifs...hmmm...maybe the stupid women are the smarter women afterall...

Emo Sunday...


Gosh I officially pronounce today Emo Sunday. Am feeling totally emotional..Not sure if it is due to the fact that I have been watching the entire season of Grey's Anatomy, or the sms from Ailing to welcome baby Mika to the world (and we didn't even know that she was pregnant with a surely very pretty mixed baby)...or the rainy weather which I totally love...but yes..I am feeling super emo...

Feeling down...empty..unwanted....booohooo.....

Symptoms of a married man


It used to be easy to tell. Wedding band on the finger = married..but now, it no longer works that way. I think more than half of the married men out there either leave their rings at home when they are planning to go out for some fun, or permenantly leave their rings in the 3rd drawer...Not an expert, but I think I have found a few married man symptoms:

* they rarely call you between 8pm and 9am the next day when they are not out partying. When not out partying, they are home being good husbands/boyfriends aka national service and of course they won't be calling you....HOWEVER, they will surely call you when they are on the way home..

* they rarely call on weekends. Same as the above, weekends are sacred and their wives/gfs
would scream at them if they were to spend it away from them.

* they rarely ask you out on weekends, same as the above. It is already not easy to be calling, let alone going out!

* their cars are kept TOO clean, with minimal or no personal belongings. If a guy leaves stuff in his car, chances are, the wife/gf will follow suit to "mark their territory". Therefore to not have the wife/gf do that, he will make it look like he prefers his car to be free from personal belongings. A normal person will have at least 2-3 items in the car, so when the car is TOO empty, he must have made an effort to keep it that empty.

*Still on the topic of the car, if you realise that the passenger seat is always in the same
incline even after you've adjusted it the last time, chances are, the car has a permenant passenger.

* To some, they will think that if he can introduce me to his workmates, he must not be married. Well, you are so wrong. Men nowadays "play" very openly and they are not afraid to let their colleagues/friends in on their little affair(s). So even if he introduces you to his colleagues or his hands are all over you when out drinking with the boys (and their gfs)..sorry darling, it doesn't mean anything.

* Birthdays no matter how little it means to a person, it usually still celebrated. If the guy tells you "i do not have the habit of celebrating birthdays" or the likes of it, chances are, it is because he is out there blowing out the candles with someone else.

* facebook status seems to mean everything now but even if he doesn't announces to the entire world that he is married/in a relationship/in a open relationship, it doesn't mean he is not married. What I realised is, these people tend to omit the relationship status from the profile , has "networking" as his looking for, OR has a almost untrackable profile name instead of his real name. (there is also loads to deciphering a facebook profile which I
really wanna talk about...one day!..wakakka)..

Alrighty, time to get back to messing around in the office.

Auntie Cindy had a horrible train ride


On the train to work, this woman 1.5times of me (and I am not small!) came and stood behind me, in the very limited space between me and someone behind. For 4 stops (almost 12min), her left butt cheek didn't stop bumping into my arse and each bump jolted me forward! I kid you not! I felt ___________ (shit I can't think of that word!)

Not long after, she moved along and a slimmer auntie took her place. FUCK! Reading full-sized newspapers shouldn't be allowed in trains during peak hour! She read her papers with her arms wide open and each time she opens up a new page she hits my head. She's only browsing through so the intervals between the opening of new pages was almost non-existent! Worst part is, each time she hit my head, she goes "tsk", like it is my fault for being in her way. On top of taking up space, newspapers stinks! Therefore, they should really consider banning it!

And the best part to the entire train ride, someone smelt like the armpits of a sweating donkey at 8.30am! You can't imagine how happy I was when I arrived at Tanjong Pagar...

The Boring Life of a Old Lady....


I think I am currently leading the boring life of a old lady!! Totally opposite of what this blog is supposed to be...I used to have loads to talk about...ok ...at least SOMETHING to write about..I now only can talk about the fact that I have nothing to talk about..

I do not party anymore like I used to do every weekend...all my party friends have settled down and nobody parties anymore..and I too have lost the interest and energy to do so...probably a nicer way to say I am now OLD!..I hate going out on weekends too coz everywhere is filled with people..agoraphobic maybe..but I'd rather stay home and watch movies or just rot...Weekday after-work drinks are also rare since my drinking friends are all on weird shifts or settled down...OH god my life is boring!!!

Even my trips to phuket have changed!..I used to nap and attack the bars at Bangla Road at night and get disgustingly drunk before I head back to the hotel...but now..I do 3 hour massages..play cookie dozer by the pool, get my hair washed at Jungceylon and am literally snoring away before the COOL people head out to play...

The worst part is..I am nowhere near trying to get my messy life back...soon all I will be capable of is to tell you which supermarket has the best bargains for toilet rolls and nag that drinking in bars is a waste of money...

OMFG...my life is officially over...I am becoming a boring auntie...

a new start....again...


It's been n years since I last blogged...since I started work with MBS, I practically have no life and energy...but well...was terminated by the company last Friday due to some idiotic postings in Facebook...they said that I am disclosing company information and without even a warning..they decided to terminate me with cause..It was a huge shock to me and it was really difficult to digest..all that I've worked for in the last 2 years just down the drain for a reason that I cannot accept..My colleagues were all in shock as it was really unreasonable..

I know that I am used as a "scapegoat"..coz HR told me..we need to let people know that posting on facebook is very serious..so unfortunate that it has to be you"...

When my colleagues and friends found out, I had streams of smses and calls coming in..and all the really nice messages they left on my facebook made this tough period much easier to get by...Thomas who has been trying to get me out of the casino industry is so happy that finally I can move on and have a life...haaahaaa...

But it is tough..always thought that gaming is gonna be the industry I am gonna stay in, now I have to start thinking about my career again..But the people around me have been very supportive, trying hard to sell me...However I am not too sure if I wanna work or maybe I should start a online shop...What do you think? Was thinking of selling nice and cheap lingerie together with pretty maternity clothes...OR..doing copies of latest fashion from big brands and selling those dresses at low prices ($50-$80)... and also nice office wear maybe...or maybe join a friend to do property...

haha..just some ideas that I am tossing around before I decide on something...anybody has any good idea?!!...

Anyhow...life goes on...what doesn't kill me makes me stronger!!

And again...


I meet a commitment phobic...zzzzzzzzzzzzz.....

Life doesn't stay perfect for long...but at least this way, there would be things for me to strive for and look forward to....

Wanna go steady boh...


It used to be so easy when we were young..just one question and you'll know whether or not you're a couple. As we grow older, we only laugh at that statement as is it also so hilarious for some reason and it all becomes just a guessing game.

So when are you really considered in a relationship? When you first hold hands? When you first kiss? When you first sleep together? When you discuss the future together? When you stay over at your partner's? When you're introduced to the parents? Or on your first argument on why isn't your partner exclusively seeing you? Or when your partner tells you that he misses you for each day that he doesn't see you?

And the biggest problem is...your answer to the above might not be the same as your partner's answer...so...why can't we go to the days when it was just as easy as "Wanna go steady boh?"

From Vietnam - Orgy of motorbikes


6th day in Vietnam and I must say I am looking forward to go home..this place is a mess! Too many motorbikes running around and the horning is driving me crazy...think there was too much hype that I am actually a little disappointed I must say...

From this trip, I realised that I am a horrible person! And I am probably not made to travel with one single individual anymore! My travel mate is a Malaysian colleague who is due to join me in MBS soon..my gosh...for a U grad from Taiwan and to take on a supervisory position with high pay in MBS..she has HORRIGIBLE english..she pronouces omelettte as "OH-MET"..and she can't do "fifty" and "fifteen" and tried to correct a vietnamese who was doing it right...and when we were on a one day Halong Bay cruise with some angmos, she conversed by echo-ing the other party so it looks like she understand...Eg: angmo says "Oh the food is good"...she says "is good"..which eventually does becomes a conversation..good method actually....I am starting to wonder how the junior singaporeans who are probably fluent in both english and mandarin are gonna react when they are trained by a person with horrible english...

She is actually is very nice girl who tries to smile at everything and sweet...and I think I can't stand act cute girls...she'll hold my arm like a kid each time we cross the road and speaks with the cutest actions...In the 5 days, I probably heard everything about her 4 years uni life in taiwan and how everyone loves her and dotes on her..she is so into it that when someone asked her where she was from..she said Taiwan!..

First 5 days I spent thronging town just to go take photos with her at all the touristy places and she commented that we've taken too few photos..she is the sort who wants to take photo of herself with everything and doing everything and must have loads of self taken photos..not very me..

Today on the last day and I am on my own as she took the early flight and part of me is actually quite happy..so I went out..took slow walks around town, stopped and had a nice long leisurely coffee when i felt like it..had a nice long lunch and watch the world go by without visiting a single tourist sight..and Hanoi wasn't that bad afterall..

From this trip..I realised that I am a mean and critical person..Don't think I can travel the touristy style with a single person anymore..in groups still ok...I am horrible..how how how??